Sex. ALL Down On Paper

Step We Are On: Four

Page: 68

Chapter: 5 "How It Works"

Subject: Resentment Inventory, Fear, Self reliance, Trust, Sex

Happy New Happy New Year and good morning. We are going through the columns of the 4th step directions. We are looking at sex and learning how sex problems…….are problematic; in that they can be as much a part of self-centered behaviors and cause harms to others as other human activities.

• What are we looking for?

Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate?

• Of whom do we make a list?

Whom had we hurt?

• Do we add those to our list who have been hurt by some more subtle actions on our part?

Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness?

• Whose wrong do we examine?

Where were we at fault,

• What do we ask ourselves?

what should we have done instead?

RIGHT SIDE (click to enlarge)

LEFT SIDE (click to enlarge)

• Do we put all this on paper just as we did the manifestations of our other personality defects?

We got this all down on paper and looked at it.

AND THIS is what the six column review looks like. 

(Please do not use a “resentment” list format for a sex overhaul/review.)

  

Fear Review Columns:

• Who?

(Names)

• Did I Hurt Them?

(Y/N)

 Any unjustifiable, jealousy, suspicion, bitterness aroused?

(Y/N)

• Was It Selfish or not selfish?

(Write in “selfish” or “not”)

• Was I selfish, Inconsiderate or dishonest? *My Fault*

(Write it in)

• What should I have done instead?

(Write in the  ‘alternative ending” that should have been to each incident)

This is the format for a sex inventory as delineated in the Big Book. If you are doing it any other way, then you are following alternative methods, not in the Big Book.  I hope everyone finds it helpful.

Peace and  Love,

Danny S – RLRA

Real Live Recovered Alcoholic

http://stepelevencomesalive.blogspot.com/