Go To Jail or Not?

Step We Are On: Nine

Page: 79

Chapter: 6 “Into Action”

Subject: Angry Wives, Amends, Alimony, Jail

Good morning.

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• How did they feel about him going to jail?

We thought he ought to be willing to do that if necessary

This is not a jail avoidance story. If necessary they thought he ought to be willing to be imprisoned.

• Would jail be difficult?

but if he were in jail he could provide nothing for either family.

The is true but notice how there is no “provider of the family” clause here to justify avoiding restitution - actions that may indeed result in incarceration. 

The plan is: He make the approach and goes to jail if that’s what it takes. Nevertheless, since this man now had a "new" family to take care of, why not take the prudent approach as follows:  

• His sponsor suggested that he do what?

We suggested he write his first wife admitting his faults and asking forgiveness.

 Aha! Great idea.

This advice to this man proposed a letter written to express contrition to his ex-wife. If brought to court, what a wonderful piece of evidence in petitioning for leniency. Wise, wise folks those co-founders. (Ask any Divorce & Family Law attorney.) The idea here was to see if jail could be avoided, first by petitioning the wife. If this didn’t work, he would need to remain willing to go to jail. (Still a helpful letter to have on file, even if she turned it down, no?)

• Did he do what his sponsor told him to do?

He did,

• What else did he do?

and also sent a small amount of money

A little cash sweetener goes a long way.

Did it work?  Did he go to jail? Next time. (Or read ahead)

 

Peace and  Love,

Danny S – RLRA

Real Live Recovered Alcoholic

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