A Matter of Motive

Step We Are On: Four

Page: 70

Chapter: 5 "How It Works"

Subject: Resentment Inventory, Fear, Self-reliance, Trust, Sex, Relapse

Good morning. We are going through the columns of the 4th step directions. 

We are looking at sex and learning how sex problems…….are problematic; in that, they can be as much a part of self-centered behaviors and cause harm to others as other human activities. 

The co-authors have posed the question. If we ever falter in our progress toward a perfectly unselfish sex life, does it mean that we are going to relapse?

Ideal - Answering to or pertaining to a concept of perfection; expressing or embodying the perfect example or type. 

 ~ The Winston Simplified Dictionary – 1938

• What does it depend on?

It depends on us and on our motives.

Motive – that which urges to action; inducement; the ultimate inner reason for performing a given act.

~ The Winston Simplified Dictionary – 1938

• If we have a slip in our sex conduct, what attitude had we better have?

If we are sorry for what we have done, and have the honest desire to let God take us to better things, we believe we will be forgiven and will have learned our lesson.

• If we are not remorseful, and we continue to do what we want rather than what we know we should, what will happen?

If we are not sorry, and our conduct continues to harm others, we are quite sure to drink.

• Is this someone’s theory?

We are not theorizing.

• Are they speculating or giving a morality lecture based upon idealism?

These are facts out of our experience.

They had seen it happen. (And if you have been involved in a 12 step fellowship any longer than a few weeks…then so have you!)

Comment:  Remember that this text is based on the experience and knowledge of its authors -- not their ideas or opinions.

Peace and Love,

Danny S – RLRA

Real Live Recovered Alcoholic

http://stepelevencomesalive.blogspot.com/