A Review of Sex Conduct

Step We Are On: Four

Page: 69

Chapter: 5 "How It Works"

Subject: Resentment Inventory, Fear, Self reliance, Trust, Sex

Good morning. We are going through the columns of the 4th step directions. We are looking at sex and learning how sex problems…….are...well, problematic. They can be as much a part of our selfish behaviors and cause harms to others just as any other self-centered human activity

Now for the third part of our Inventory. Sexual misconduct is another manifestation of our character defects.

• Do we want to be the judge of anyone’s sex conduct?

We do not want to be the arbiter of anyone's sex conduct.

Arbiter – one who controls a result or outcome.
~ The Winston Simplified Dictionary – 1938

Question: Does the co-author's reluctance to take  control of the sex lives of others (readers) have any bearing on whether or not a person (reader) can be sexually self-centered and in need of an overhaul?

Does pointing out to another alcoholic that he is sexually selfish automatically imply an attempt to control?

Or might it possible for a sane, sound recovered individual to offer an honest and loving observance in this regard - especially when others are being harmed? 

Any "sponsor" who works with a selfish pig and withholds that observation is simply not doing his job.

• Who has sex problems?

We all have sex problems.

• What would we be if we didn’t?

We'd hardly be human if we didn't.

• So now, what is the question?

What can we do about them?

• We begin this by doing what?

We reviewed our own conduct over the years past.

We treat our sex problems as we did for our resentments in that we undergo an examination (overhaul). However that examination does NOT take the form of a four columned approach, as we have done with the  resentment inventory. Instead, we do what is proposed in this book.

Review – 1. going over anything again to study, consider or examine. 2. a general consideration. ~

The Winston Simplified Dictionary – 1938

It’s a review, not an inventory, and we will cover this overhaul  examination, column by column tomorrow. Samples and examples will be posted here. 

If you have been doing a sex review like a 4 Column resentment inventory, then you are not going to want to miss this important adjustment to your procedure. It will put you right back into the actual Big Book directions.

 (Just because it is a "review", doesn't mean it need be a cursory task, and though general, it is much more comprehensive - Keeping this process as it is delineated in the book is important and it does make a difference.)

Peace and  Love,

Danny S – RLRA

Real Live Recovered Alcoholic

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