Good Sex

Step We Are On: Four

Page: 69

Chapter: 5 "How It Works"

Subject: Resentment Inventory, Fear, Self reliance, Trust, Sex,

Happy New Happy New Year and good morning. We are going through the columns of the 4th step directions. 

We are looking at sex and learning how sex problems…….are problematic; in that they can be as much a part of self-centered behaviors and cause harms to others as other human activities.

• What is the purpose of reviewing our past sex life, behaviors and attitudes in this written manner?

In this way we tried to shape a sane and sound ideal for our future sex life

Sound 1. Morally good or honorable

Ideal – The highest standard of excellence or beauty; also a person or thing embodying such a standard.

Moral – pertaining to man’s conception of what is right and just, ethical; discriminating between right and wrong. Capable of being influenced by a sense of right.

~ The Winston Simplified Dictionary – 1938

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• What test do we apply?

We subjected each relation to this test - was it selfish or not?

Putting the meanings together we get a moral, honorable standard for our sex life going forward that is void of selfishness.  

QUESTION: Are you moral, honorable and selfless in your sex life?

Comment:  The following is the first of three prayers we are given to help shape our sex conduct.

• What do we ask of God?

We asked God to mold our ideals and help us to live up to them

 We do not form the standards of sexual morality ourselves. We ask God to do it for us! We don’t even have to intellectually decide right from wrong – God uses our conscience and provides intuitive guidance. We know right form wrong intuitively, even in sexual matters. As we grow we are moved now by human-spiritual intuition (God vision), outgrowing and foregoing the justifications our former behavior that were motivated by animal instinct. (Self vision) 

We will no longer engage in the the types of sexual activities that taunt the conscience, as our past behaviors have.

• What must we remember about the source of our sex powers?

We remembered always that our sex powers were God-given

• They are therefore what?

and therefore good,

• They are not to be used how?

neither to be used lightly or selfishly nor to be despised and loathed.

Unselfish, purposeful sex is good!  It can be embraced and enjoyed.

Two Questions: What is the God-given purpose of sex? Is it ever possible to have unselfish sex outside of this purpose?

Peace and  Love,

Danny S – RLRA

Real Live Recovered Alcoholic

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